In Episode 5 I sit down and talk to you about the #1 thing I rant about when I’m white claw drunk- never settle in life. My friends have a nickname for me: Passionate Patricia- and if you couldn’t tell by the name of the podcast, I’m super passionate about basically everything I care about. But I do have one biggest passion in life. When anybody asks “what’s your biggest goal in life? what do you most in life?” I always say, to never settle and choose happiness.
My goal to never settle is the fire behind every decision I make. Whether it be for my career, relationships, friendships, whatever it is, I never want to settle. I never want to feel like I’m forcing myself suppress happiness and the things I care about. I don’t want to be scared to try something just society says I should be or because I think that’s what I should be doing yet it’s not what I want to be doing.
So, when I have a few white-claws in me and someone starts talking to me about things in their life they’re not happy with, I become Passionate Patricia. I tell them no, we are not settling.
I used to work in the corporate world in an office job. I was so miserable, yet I kept settling for it because I was stuck in a bad mindset. Firstly, I was terrified of going full-time with photography. Secondly, I kept telling myself I should work the secure full-time job with a guaranteed paycheck that had a routine. But I was miserable settling for that. I had so much more potential that was being wasted at a crappy job with a toxic boss. I was worth so much more, yet I didn’t realize it until I hit my breaking point.
One day I woke up and thinking I don’t even care to get out of bed today. The thought of getting out of bed and going to work physically made my stomach turn. I was only 21 years old, wasting my 20s on a toxic job that I hated. That’s no way to live. I ended up leaving to go full-time with photography
At the end of the day, you only have one life. So, if you’re stuck in a corporate job that you despise, don’t settle! You cannot wake up every single day just to work 8 to 10 hours at a job you hate. Work takes up so much of your life.
Even if the next job you get isn’t your dream job, don’t stay at a job you despise. Certainly, don’t settle for the job where your boss puts you down every day, your coworkers are toxic, or if you just don’t enjoy it. Above all you don’t want to wake up in the mornings resenting your life every day, just to go through the motions.
Why stay at a job where you are so severely unhappy? I know some situations are easier to change than others, obviously. I’m not saying that not settling is easy, by no means is it easy. It takes a little bit of self-analyzing and deep digging to figuring out what you actually want.
Identify the things that make you happy so you can at least bring a little bit of that joy back into your life.
Go on indeed.com, LinkedIn, whatever job site and look at job opportunities out there. You don’t even have to apply to them today. But remind yourself that there are other opportunities out there. Because in reality you’re never truly stuck. You can get out of these situations; it just takes a little bit of courage.
This goes for relationships as well. If you wake up every day sad, angry, feeling forgotten or neglected you’re basically suppressing your self-worth. There’s a massive world out there my friends. Don’t settle for a partner or friend who makes you feel like crap. I know it’s easier said than done. Breakups, both romantic and friend, are absolutely awful. It disrupts your whole life, routine, and everything you know. But you deserve better. We don’t have to settle for toxic people. Don’t stay around people who drain the life out of you or abuse you. You should be around people who give you life, joy, and happiness. Above all, you don’t need to keep people in your life that you don’t want in your life, whether they’re toxic or not. You deserve so much better, don’t settle.
So that’s what we’re doing in 2021. We’re not settling and we’re going to make baby steps towards finding things that bring us. It could be small things or big things. You must find the things that bring you happiness and ignite the passion inside you.
When I feel like I’m losing a little bit of my spark and passion I start doing small joys. I don’t try to reach major goals. I just start doing small things.
I focus on things that bring me happiness. Then I try to make those little changes every day to bring the joy back into my life.
Get truthful with yourself and ask: what do you really want out of life? If you want something, act on it. Don’t wake up everyday resenting your job or relationships. That is settling and we have to change that. I want you to live your happiest life!
I hope this inspires you a little bit and you enjoyed my Passionate Patricia rant!
til next time my friends – Arastasia
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