In this episode, I spontaneously turn to random pages in the Amanda Lovelace books (“Break Your Glass Slippers” and “Shine Your Icy Crown”) and share my thoughts on some of her quotes and opinions. Lovelace is a very empowering woman who shares about her growth, trauma, and wisdom. I talk through finding yourself, being unapologetic in your circles, and loving yourself first in relationships.
I used to lower my vibration drastically to fit into circles, relationships and situations where I thought I might be more accepted if I was a lesser version of myself. It would always leave me feeling extremely misunderstood and lonely. I wasn’t being the best version of myself because I was suppressing so much of myself.
I’d be in conversations where I would avoid talking about my passions and career because I felt like that was too much. I lacked confidence anytime I talked about my endeavors. What I learned through my experiences in these toxic circles is that if people truly care about you and your growth as a human, they’re going to support you and be excited for you when you chase after your passions. You don’t have to relate to somebody to support them being the best version of themself.
As a chronic people pleaser, I’ve always struggled with ruffling feathers. If someone didn’t like me, I felt like I was disappointing them. I’ve learned that not everyone is meant to be on the same wavelength and not everyone is meant to understand each other. Not everyone has to like you, and that’s okay. Be your unapologetic self and if you vibe with someone, great! If not, that’s not your person and you’re not theirs, and it’s no big deal.
I believe that you have to love yourself before you can really love someone else. It’s not always easy, but if you’re relying on someone else to make you feel whole, I think you’re always going to feel a little bit lost and misunderstood.
For me personally, anytime I lost myself in a relationship it was because I was not understanding myself and loving myself first. I lost sight of who I wanted to be and instead of being unapologetically myself, I was trying to let another person complete me in an inauthentic way.
It’s wonderful to allow someone in and open your heart to them, but you have to open your heart to yourself first.
All I have to say is girl was ON FIRE in these books. In the first she’s heartbroken and traumatized. She puts in the hard self work and by the second book, she’s ready to demolish.
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Until next time my friends – Arastasia
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